For many of us asking for help is what stretches us out of our comfort zone the most! The truth is we can’t do alone. There is no extra credit for making it through this journey by yourself. As a matter of fact, is it much less rewarding if you do.
This journey is all about the relationships we foster, build and strengthen. So when it comes to the point in your relationships where something isn’t working it is up to you to take responsibility, speak up and create the change. Not only will it serve your relationship with the other person, it will also build confidence and integrity in your relationship with your SELF!
In service of the higher good for all, your words, actions, energy and intentions will create stronger bonds, and more meaningful relationships.
So how does a gal go about asking for what she needs? First, it takes courage. It is an act of vulnerability to ask for something you are not in a position to give yourself now. Take the time and get clear about what you need, in detail.
Use these suggestions to guide you through:
Set Your Intentions
On an outer level get clear about the specifics of your request. What do you need? When do you need it? What does that look like? What are your expectations?
On an inner level manage your energy. Scripting will help you line up your energy ahead of time and get clear about how you want to show up in this experience.
Come From a Place of Love
When the origin of your energy is love, you can’t go wrong. When your heart is open, your mind is free and your energy is high and flows with ease. When you come from a place of love, magical things happen.
Speak Your Truth
When asking for help always speak your truth. Share what is not working for you, how it is showing up in your life and how you would like to see it change. Then ask for what you need. Share how you see this person being of help to you. Tell them why you chose them to support you in this way.
Be Specific
So there is no room for confusion, be specific in your request. That way whomever it is you are asking has a clear picture of their role and they can make an informed decision.
Release Your Attachment to an Outcome
Go into this understanding and accepting that your request may be denied. Be OK with that. If you are attached to a specific outcome, it will come through in your energy and your request will seem insincere.
Let me know how it goes, OK?
Have a great weekend . . . XO
